Since I have been spending a lot of time in my home due to COVID19, I have noticed how a home is a really a living system, not unlike our bodies. It takes constant energy to keep it alive, currents of electricity and water run throughout, like blood flowing through the human body. It requires care and nurturing – painting walls, roofs that need replaced, like the envelope of the human body, the skin, which replaces itself regularly. I’ll hold off on drawing any parallels with the septic system.
A home has a symbiotic relationship with the people that live inside, kind of like our cells and organs. When it is taken care of, it seems bright, alive and full of life. You know the feeling you get when you see an abandoned building, sitting in a field, neglected. Doesn’t it feel lonely? Something really sad about that. When a home is abandoned, it’s not long before it starts to degrade and fall apart.
We as humans are no different. We must nurture ourselves, be kind and forgiving of our own foibles, gift ourselves with invigorating movement & exercise, fuel our minds and body’s with enriching foods harvested directly from the soil, listen to our hearts and take action from that place where purpose resides. Then, be as kind to others as we are to ourselves.
Once we get our own house in orders it’s amazing to see who will want to come and visit.
From the time we were very young, through our experiences as children, then teens, and adults, whenever a situation generated particularly strong feelings (good or bad) within us, these feelings became embedded in our brains and, when any similar situation arises, continue to evoke in us the same, reactive, automatic response. These negative emotions become knee jerk reactions, and replace thoughtful responses, resulting in poor communication with others, self-limiting beliefs and behaviors.
The key to overcoming these reactions is simple – practice being the observer of your thoughts and the emotions they generate. Use your mind to become aware of what you are feeling, become curious about what is popping up. Practice waiting 5 seconds before any response to yourself or others. Search for the reason why your are feeling this emotion. These emotions are actual gifts to you to clear away unhelpful reactions from past events in your life. Allow yourself to really feel the emotion as strongly as possible – when you focus on an emotion, it’s power over you immediately starts to dissipate. Your mind is taking control back. Remind yourself that what you are feeling is a reaction to something that is no longer happening. If your emotion is a result of something someone else said or did, or something you said or did, ask yourself the following questions – is this happening right now to me or am I recreating the event and reaction to it in my mind? Even if this instance happened 5 minutes ago, you, will find that you continue to react to it. If your boss snaps at you first thing in the morning and you find yourself going over and over it and getting upset all over again…………..realize that you are the one creating and perpetuating this negative response. Not to mention the fact that other people’s reactions do not have to dictate what yours will be, and are based on their past experiences.
Take time to breath deeply into your stomach (when you are stressed or angry, your breathing tends to get shallow and rapid and you aren’t bringing as much oxygen to your brain).
Recognize your emotions are a set of chemical reactions taking place in the brain from prior programming of past events. This will give you your power back and the ability to healthily manage your emotions. This is an invaluable habit to develop for more success, health and happiness in your life and work.
Take a moment to look inward, and ask yourself………….are you satisfied with your life? Do you feel pretty content, and also feel something is missing and you’re not sure what it is? You have the job, support your family have “checked the boxes” with all the “have to do things” on your to do lists. You have done what you believe is expected of you in your life and yet, a tiny (or not so tiny) voice in your head keeps telling you their should just be something more. If this is you, then the answer is simple – you are right. There is something more for you. The way to discover this is to start listening to the little voice that is sending you an important message – Discover Your True Gifts, Align your life with them, and SHINE! Everything is first created in your mind as a thought or idea, before it becomes a reality. Make the choice. Discover what you are most passionate about and connect with your true self and uniqueness. I promise it will be a life altering experience that will put the sparkle back into your life and free that “little voice” to celebrate what you become.